I live in others’ memories ©
By Michael Casey
We remember things,
that’s what makes us smile, the remembrance of things past. It can be a good
cup of coffee, it can be the French toast we shared with our daughters this
very morning, it can be memories from a
faded photo of our long dead mum. Things remind us of love, of hate and war, of
death itself. As I lie dying here I know
my girls will remember me, they even tell me they’ll be red roses on my grave
every month, so I can die happy, though I tell them not to shed any tears.
I live in people’s memories, Omer one of my students said
he’d never forget me, never, I was touched, I told him to forget me and just
remember his English. I did give him a big hug and said goodbye, I suppose it
was touching. The naughty students remember you too, when you are gone they want to know where you
are now. I feel a bit like Nanny MacPhee, though which of us is the more attractive I’ll
let you decide. I live in people’s memories so I’ll never die, my grammar
school mates still remember when I stunk the bus out because of my smelly feet
in the wellies back in 1972.
I live in people’s memories, the guests at CPNEC back in 05 said I was the
best thing in the hotel when they heard I was leaving, that was very touching
and I DID work very very hard there. The guests for the Spring Show they
were very very nice people, one lady
reminded me of Bet Lynch from Coronation St, “hello Michael, give us a kiss,
show us the photos” and I’d show her the latest photos of my then small
daughters. That lady really was a lady and she and her crew really did work so hard at the show,
so it was nice to look after her. Another guest would say “honey I’m home” when
he got back to the hotel after 10 hours of hard work at the Spring Show, they
live in my memory and I’ll be tell my girls and their girls how much fun hotel
work is, and how much hard work too, because it lives in my memory.
I live in other’s
memories because I hope I care, because I really am an altruist, because it is
nice to go that extra mile, to see the penny drop when you teach somebody
something new. Or to see you have surprised people with your writing, “did you
do that, did you write that” now that will stick in their memories. A piece of
writing especially a song or a poem, now that really is something specially. I
know a little old lady in USA who’ve I met via Facebook who’s poetry lives in my memory, who’s words make me realise, never judge a book by its
cover. As she reads this I know I haven’t described her correctly, the only
correct word for her is Poet, with a capital P.
Today we spoke and she said “niche”, as in we all have a “niche” and I
suppose that’s how we each live in people’s memory. Perhaps
I should be on a niche in a church with candles burning in front of me,
as I get more and more sooty. A good car mechanic has his niche and that’s why
we go back to him because he is so good and by word of mouth he gets good
business, he lives in other’s memory.
So when I finally die, for we all do, what would I like
to be remembered for? I hope my girls will say he loved us so much, he made us
laugh, he wasn’t that fat, he never dyed his hair black as we nagged him to,
nor trimmed his wild eyebrows either. I hope
people have finally bought my books on Amazon Kindle, I hope we finally
did get that nice big house. And as the light from one
life fades, I hope I can say “I did my best, I was almost as good as my own dad.”
mum's house where she lived till 12 with 6 other siblings and parents
Cromane Lower County Kerry Ireland